I need to stop worrying about problems that aren’t mine

By herloudsilence@gmail.comPersonal Development, Self Love, Uncategorized

I need to stop worrying about problems that aren’t mine

As if I don’t have enough problems of my own… why on earth do I let other people’s problems, or stupidity, bother me? Even if they are a close relative or friend who just can’t seem to learn their lesson, they keep making the same stupid mistakes over and over again. Now, I am not one to judge. I’ve had some hard lessons to learn, and when I say hard, I mean that I had to make the same mistake over and over again until, finally, one day it clicked, and I learned the lesson and stopped making that mistake.

I’ve come to realize in life how flawed humans really are. How people say things and make absolute statements that they believe wholeheartedly in the heat of the moment but will literally revert back within the hour. It’s hard to watch people you love self-destruct in this manner. And you want to help them because it’s easy for you to see where they are messing up as an outsider… but does anyone ever listen to the outsider? No. Because it’s a lesson they need to learn through experience instead of being told. It’s not my business to fix that, nor is it my business to show them where they are messing up!

One thing is certain: I can’t see myself staying with someone who does not trust me or who is so insecure that they accuse me of cheating. I can’t see myself dating someone who is so paranoid and believes in things without proof, asks to see my phone (hell to the no), and disrespects me in front of other people. I would never want to be with someone who engages with my low-vibrational antics instead of putting a stop to it. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who matches my level of toxicity, lol. I’d rather be with someone who allows me to grow and flourish, who shows me a new way of being in or seeing the world. Someone who loves themselves enough to leave me for being a toxic individual. I don’t want to date someone who will put up with me or allow me to walk all over them. And I also would NEVER want to be THAT person doing that to another person. Karma is and always will be the baddest bitch I know, and I’m good on that.

I’m starting to see why it’s so important for people to work on themselves before entertaining relationships.